Easter message on Good Friday

I’m one of those Catholics who don’t anymore observe Lent in the traditional sense. Because, can’t I live my entire life as a ‘sorry’ and at the same time a ‘thank you’ as well such that Lent, Easter, and Christmas are everyday experiences? Does that make me a bad Catholic? Anyway. In other words, while…

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Civilized

Ivy League-educated, demure, socially conscious, white and pretty, Emma Watson fits perfectly into to the category of the woman whose breasts we are not supposed to see. In the binary of virgin and whore, she is firmly in the former camp. It is this that has upset the critics of her photoshoot, because there is…

ThrowbackThursday: Bride Schools

​In the 1950s, Japanese women seeking a new life in America had to learn about more than just visa requirements. They also had to learn how to cook hamburgers, entertain neighbors, and confidently walk in high heels. Eyeliner application was, apparently, a vital skill. These immigrants weren’t just any women. They were the “war brides”…

“That’s entertainment”

Waiting, especially when you’re by yourself, can feel like eternity. In that stretch, I could catch up on sleep. In fact, plenty of fellow travellers did, on the lounge seats. But women traveling solo are disadvantaged in this aspect I fear. To remain alert or at least convey that I was, I flipped through the…

The curious path to change

These videos were shown in a training for young LGBTQCI (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, cisgender, and intersex) I recently went to. I laughed when these were shown. I have forgotten all about them. Almost a decade ago, we utilized the very same material in discussions with village men and women for a women’s reproductive…

#ShareTheLoad

This video was shown during a session on gender analysis. We were seriously watching it UNTIL after the surprise at the close of the video. That’s when the room exploded. Everyone agreed that it’s the most riveting commercial about women and men on TV yet. Facebook COO Sandberg has the same thought too.

Polite society, sometimes

What I don’t like when fine dining is that I can’t eat my favorite foods with gusto.  Lobster for instance.  I like them un-shelled and whole, lime-vinegar-chili sauce mix on the side but what four-star chef serves it up as it is?  On the other hand, do I have to be in a run down…

Veiled

I would imagine that if I’m to wear this every day where I live some or other will tell me to take it off. And that’s the weird thing. I’m not a Muslim but I’ll be happy living with this modified burqa over me; out of personal preference.

Home is where the food is

Where I previously worked, the head of office would sometimes come by our wing (Program/Operations) in order to chat with us before he’d call it a day.  In one of these, he asked what language we were using to swear with because that would indicate where our true home was.  For several in the group travelling abroad…

Beyond eating

The clutter of dishes after meal times may look like as if a hurricane just went through it but to me it’s a…beautiful kind of mess, because it tells of the beauty inherent in relationship building and physical movement. On the latter, it would be an accomplishment to map the dynamic between diners from the start…

On Total Acceptance

John Legend’s All Of Me makes me want to cry because what it confesses – total acceptance of another – is in reality impossible.  We might have had the capacity when we were very young before experience robbed us of innocence. Acceptance of who we are by others especially our significant others is a basic human need,…